Some things that you should know!

First off it's not okay to tell me how to discipline my son.  If you have not had a child with Autism then please keep your disciplinary advice to yourself.  I have a certain method to how I handle Ashton when he is upset or having a tantrum.  It does not involve spanking and screaming.  I calmly get down on his level and explain that his behavior is unacceptable.  Of course I use words that he understands and I follow a routine on discipline.  With Autistic children a routine is very necessary.  Any daily task that does not follow routine can throw a child far off course.  So when doing something different with Ashton I prepare myself mentally for the task at hand..  I make sure I know that where ever we go together there could be two possible outcomes..  And yes one involves kicking and screaming( by Ashton not me lol ) After I mentally prepare myself for the possible outcome of the day then the day seems to go by smoother..I also make sure I bring things that Ashton is familiar with. i.e: toys, books, movies, games.. Things that he uses in his normal routine!!  Once I have managed to get myself ready I then prepare Ashton..  I will get him excited about our trip by saying in a very excited tone, Ashton are you ready to go bye bye! Were gonna go have fun are you ready!  I have noticed people staring at us when we are out around town shopping or eating.  They give us dirty looks for the way Ashton is behaving.  For the most part I just ignore them, they don't know that my son has a problem and so I just try to enjoy myself with my family..  Sometimes I will vent to my husband about the stares or the mumbles but there is not much that I can do! I figure if I was in their shoes I would probably have done things the same way..  In fact I have!  Before Ashton was diagnosed I gave quite a few stares and mumbled words about kids behavior never once thinking it could be something more!! But now that I have seen the light I try to use my best judgement in our situation!  My hope for the future is for everyone to be tolerant and understanding towards kids with disabilities.  Be kind and patient and if you don't know then just ask..  Most moms of Autistic children are eager and willing to educate someone on their child's behalf. I know I am!! So if ever you want to know something about Ashton just ask me!! I will do my very best to give you all the facts I know!!
Thank you for understanding!!